The Scales of Happiness

Are you tied to the scales of happiness?  I used to be but recently ditched my old routine of weighing myself daily and letting the result determine whether it was going to be a good day or a bad day! I’m fascinated by how we are programmed to attach meaning to things that just shouldn’t be connected.  You’ve lost a pound, that means you’re going to have a good day.  You’ve lost a pound, that means you’re going to wear something that flatters you and make an extra effort.  You’ve gained a pound, that means you’re going to beat yourself up.  You’ve gained a pound, that means you’re going to wear this shapeless black top as it covers a multitude of sins! Sound familiar? I was coaching a client this morning who was looking back into her past and reminiscing about how she used to be a smaller size.  As I was encouraging her to accept herself now and start visualizing herself in the future, I became aware of a group of very elderly ladies at another table.  They were enjoying a spot of lunch and one trim, well turned out lady shouted up the table: “How much did you lose this week Agnes?” “Oooh three and a half pounds” was the reply. “I bet that made you feel good Agnes, well done”! Now while I agree that being a healthy weight is a good thing, my future life suddenly flashed in front of me.  Would that be us at 80 odd years old, still tied to the scales of happiness?!  I could think of nothing worse for us all and resolved at that moment to get this message out to you...
Inspiration is Everywhere!

Inspiration is Everywhere!

Last week, dreams came true!  Okay, so I will stop with the Fleetwood Mac song titles now but I want to remind you to pay attention.  Inspiration pops up when you do. We were lucky enough to see Fleetwood Mac in concert last week.  Most of them are 70 or heading that way and I was amazed by their energy and their clarity of voice.  It sounded just like the records!  I reckon my kids were the youngest audience members by far but they are old souls and have an eclectic mix of music on their phones!  One song in particular blew me away.  I’ve heard it many times but had no idea of the story behind it.  Stevie Nicks told us the story and I really hope everyone heard her message. When the band were performing in the late 70s they had started to make money by supporting some great bands so Stevie went along to a beautiful little boutique called The Velvet Underground.  She explained that Janis Joplin bought her clothes there.  As she stood on a spot on the floor she realised that she couldn’t afford anything in the shop.  So she remained standing there and she visualised becoming successful and returning to the store in the future.  The song was Gypsy, and of course, the rest is history!  Stevie encouraged the audience to follow your dreams, nothing is impossible.  It was a beautiful inspiring moment.  I felt a connection with every audience member and I’m glad I was paying attention. What are your dreams?  Have you only told them to the songbird?  Will you go your own way? Whatever you do, don’t stop thinkin’...
The Big Picture

The Big Picture

Do you ever get bogged down in the detail? Can’t see the wood for the trees?  Living pay check to pay check or one client away from packing it all in?  Or maybe your creative juices have dried up and ideas have stopped flowing!  Not pleasant really, is it. Life is a series of ups and downs and often you can find your energy sapping.  In my early self development days, my Mum bought me a copy of “The Secret”.  I read it, and absorbed it and put it aside.  The cynic in me said, “hmmm so by just imagining things, they will happen?”  Aye right! I didn’t pay much attention to how it worked but did start to notice more coincidences, connections and synchronicity happening around me. A few years on and I’ve been reading a lot recently on the Law of Attraction or Manifestation (or whatever the newest buzz word is) for attracting what you want into your life.  “Ask and it is Given” by Esther and Jerry Hicks is a great read and something in there really resonated with me.  To get what you want in life, you don’t just ask for it, you attach emotion to it!  This was an AHA moment for me.  I’d not been feeling it.  I had put requests out there and visualised and all that but I hadn’t attached any real positive emotion or feeling to what I want to attract. Because I was scared.  Scared that my visualising wouldn’t come true and then it would be so disappointing.   OMG what a lightbulb.  I realise that many of my clients suffer from this same pattern.  They never...
5 Top Tips from Inspiring Women

5 Top Tips from Inspiring Women

I have to share these words of wisdom from a networking event I was fortunate to attend - “Inspiring Women in Business Edinburgh”.  It was organised by Management Today and was full of inspiring female speakers who had all taken different paths to their success. We had an emotive beginning with Justine Mitchell of The Chamomile Sanctuary  and co owner of Dundee United Football Club.  Justine spoke of her late father’s guidance and advice.  She had many tips to share and the stand out one for me, which was repeated throughout the day, was: “Go with your gut instinct!” So often we ignore that gut instinct at our peril.  Clients often ask me “how do you know it’s your gut talking?”  Notice your behaviour when you make a decision that feels right, and a decision that feels wrong.  For me, if I’m making a decision and I start to ask several people for advice or confirmation that I’m doing the right thing, it’s a sign that I am ignoring my gut.  If it feels right, I generally go with only my own opinion.  What signs do you have for knowing whether it’s your gut instinct? The speaker who stood out for me was Jo Haigh of FDS Group.  Her straight talking, down to earth approach really appealed to me.  On women in the boardroom we could talk all day long about discrimination, lack of opportunity, lack of confidence or whatever.  Jo nailed it in saying: “Stop talking about it, and do something about it.  No one will make these opportunities for you.”   Amen to that! A panel discussion about work life balance and strategies for coping...